Opportunity: assuming personal responsibility for yourself, your mindset, and your current situation.
Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?
Cheshire Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to
Alice: I don't much care where
Cheshire Cat: Then it doesn't matter which way you go
Alice: so long as I get somewhere, (Alice added as an explanation).
Cheshire Cat: Oh, you're sure to do that... if you only walk long enough.
Watching the game. Drinking with your buddies. Doing household tasks. Shopping with your wife. Playing with your children. Trying to keep up with the neighbors. Trying to appease the boss or manage your clients and customers. Earning money. Spending money. Accumulating stuff. Being owned by your possessions. Feeling like other people are having better and more sex than you. Trying to get laid. Getting laid and still feeling incomplete desire...
I believe that many men are still trying to gain the father approval that was denied to them so many years ago. We will deeply examine this in Module 6, but it is impossible to not bring this up now because I perceive childhood abandonment to be a major factor in a man's decisions.
There are three possibilities for this that affect many men:
Pay close attention to the middle column as this defines the linguistic representation of the belief system. "Us" is very general, "we" is a collective, and "I" is very independent. Men who individually affect history positively and negatively primarily value the "I" segment. Men who participate in the ongoing reproduction and care of future generations primarily value the "we" segment, placing the immediate collective's interest ahead of one's own. The "Us" segment may be objectively detached (in the case of scientists and philosophers) or the unaware consumers and workers (referred to as proletariats in Marxism).
The past few generations have been sold on the notion of celebrity. The emphasis is necessarily upon being well known because of one's extraordinary talents in a given field but more for "having the right look". Both men and women have become entirely too susceptible to the machinations of good looking, smooth talking people who are selling the agenda's of private interest groups.
"Looking at a circle is like looking into a mirror. We create and
respond irresistibly to circles, cylinders, and spheres because we
recognize ourselves in them. The message of the shape bypasses our
conscious mental circuitry and speaks directly to the quiet intelligence
of our deepest being. The circle is a reflection of the world's - and
our own - deep perfection, unity, design excellence, wholeness, and
divine nature." ~ Michael Schneider,
A Beginner's Guide to Constructing the Universe